Has your counsellor said the issues are gone or has your counsellor said they have improved. Most counselling I'm aware of is 3-4mos blocks where goals are made. Making improvement on those goals is seen as accomplishing the task. Completely different than that of wiping them out all together. Is it possible then your counsellor feels that you have made headway on coping with certain issues? Just a thought.

Now, to the real problem at hand; your relationship. Have you voiced your expectations of the relationship to your partner? And don't forget that conversation goes both ways - you need to also voice your expectations of your own behaviour (what you will bring to the table). You need to ask your partner what they think the relationship should look like. Remember though that the conversation shouldnt' just include "this is what I want from you" but also offer up "this is what I feel I can give". I can't stress that enough.