ArtChic - Can't be a fun situation.

I have to ask, what are the arrangements for contributing to the living arrangements? Do you and your brother pay rent?

If not, then I believe what mom says and is herself prepared to accept goes. When my daughter lived under my roof my expectation was what I said was house rules. If she didn't want to abide by it then out she went.

However, she chose to start paying me rent and, as a boarder I had to give her an entirely different level of respect - especially to her privacy and independence. Yup, I turned the other way when she entertained her longterm boyfriend in her room. I did expect expect her to clean her baathroom. And, as a 'roommate' I expected her to buy and prepare her own food.

Again though, when she wasn't paying rent I was boss.