Title starts it off. And the more I think about it the more it's true.
I was in another site and found the following quotes that sparked my most recent trip along these thoughts. I've seen posts from this person: she's an Aspergers patient and a genius in almost everything she touches. She's not yet 30 but has already held multiple high level positions and has an interminable list of accomplishments. She's the sort of person who makes people realize how worthless they are due to being basically perfect, and I agree with her outlook because I'm the sort of person it's aimed at.
I also marked the things that stood out to me.
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I've been told lately that people like me because I don't sugar coat things. If you ask me something, I'll give you a straight answer even if it means hurting your feelings. I don't care. If you ask me for something, expect the truth. If you are terrible at something, I will tell you that. Everyone is much too concerned about the feelings of others. Yes, your hair looks horrible. You are incompetent. You shouldn't be doing that. Et cetera ad nauseam.
Get over yourselves. Most people are the pinnacle of mediocrity and will never be anything better than what they are. They don't want to be because they would try otherwise. They just fantasize and ***** about it instead. Get off the feelz train; it's not doing much good. People are still starving or homeless or plagued, but we have our safe spaces and political correctness to fall back on.
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A few posts later:
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Without being told we are wrong, how can we become better? If I am wrong, I want to be told I am wrong provided someone else isn't just being narcissistic. Correct the spelling mistakes on the child's test, tell them they have poor sentence structure, don't normalize poor work habits, provide structure but allow for creativity. Stop giving everyone a trophy just for showing up. You aren't special just for existing. Stop caring so much about how people feel. The world doesn't revolve around the emotions of others. You can't please everyone. Eventually, you'll run into two groups with contradicting views that cannot be appeased. It is not our job to appease people.
In order to grow, the current state must be acknowledged and seen as less than what is wanted. It might be terrible or it might just be alright, but there is always room for improvement. You can always strive for perfection even though it is not always attainable. You can always get closer. Why can we not be the best we can be? Because we don't know how bad we really are because people are too afraid of the emotional backlashSuck it up, people. Strive. Be better. Achieve for your own self worth.
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I'm guilty of fantasizing of being better and not going anything. Because I know I can't I know I'm nothing but a worthless failure and anything I do or create will be awful. I know I'm awful. There's no point in trying because there will never be any reward, just mistakes and failure, further proving what a waste of space I am. I can't achieve for my own self worth because nothing will ever be good enough to warrant self-worth. Everything will be terrible, and the only way I could remotely enjoy what I'm doing is to shield of from criticism, never share or express because it will never be good enough, and that's the way I should see it.
Sure, you can get closer, but you're never allowed to be proud of your improvement, because it can always be criticized and there's always someone better.
So I see no reason to try anything. I have poor work habits, partly because there's nothing to work on that I won't just pointlessly fail at, and because it's useless by itself.
A genius has spoken, and I am garbage with no way out.
Oh, and I know that anything that criticizes this person and their views, and that encourages me and makes me feel better is just a lot of idiot sugarcoating (incidentally, the topic of the thread these posts came from), and confirmation bias on my part. There's no escape.