People progress at their own speed and rarely does "shoulding" someone, in my experience, change that speed. It is often easy to see what someone else might do differently from the outside but it is never so easy from the inside. I think people who post here are very often doing the best they can at the moment. I wouldn't choose to do almost any of the stuff others choose to do around therapists, but I don't think it would benefit me to judge or condemn them for their different choices. I don't think I have to like everyone who posts here or agree with their choices, (and I don't like some posters just as some posters don't like me or understand my choices), but their way, even if it appears a rocky path to me, is theirs.