thank you and it's good to meet you as well

As to your decision, I think you've made a very grown up, responsible, empowering decision. I am DID. Most of me did not realize our power and "adulthood" where the mother was concerned, so it was a very clouded issue here.

I praise you for your mothering...I have done the same with my children. I have two girls 22 & 17. They're well adjusted, great children. I broke that cycle. It helped that I married a "healthy, normal" man...hehe. My oldest just graduated from college with her BA in psych (i swear to try to understand me better...hehe). My youngest is a junior in high school and doing great. I'm sure you do great and will continue to do great with your children. One thing that bothers me when I look back on my children growing up is...I spent just as much time and energy on the mother as I did my children, leaving me very drained for them. I'm angry when I think about that. So many times I shushed my children because the mother was on the phone in crisis. Then when I would hang up, I was so wrapped up in her crisis that I still wasn't there for them as I should have been. I praise you for making your decision and standing by it. You sound like you know exactly what you need to do and are going to do it! good job!

I think your stand may get your mother back into therapy...no it's not your "job or responsibility", but it's something you want and need to do to feel ok about the situation. You have come soooo much farther than I had at your age. It didn't help that I was dissociating heavily back then. You are going to do great.

Sending wishes full of strength to make the stands that your making right now. I hope I'm not overstepping any bounds in saying "i've been where you are" and I'm proud of you.

Be safe,

Kimmydawn