I've posted on here before regarding my 33 year old daughter. It was suggested she very likely is dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder. Her mother took off with her when she was 2 months old and by the time they found them again when my daughter was 6 months old she weighed less than 8 pounds. Her mother never cared much for her daughter. I got custody of my daughter when she was 14 and until then she had a severe cleft lip and would only play with 6 and 7 year old children. I got her an operation on her lip, but unbeknownst to her brothers and I my daughter became very promiscuous a month or two following the operation. She finally told us what was going on when she was 18. By then she had been with over 100 boys in just 2 1/2 years, yet at the same time, to her brothers and I she was a child who even at 18 would stomp her feet and cry for Daddy to "make it better" when she would get a little paper cut.

After we found out what was going on my daughter took of to the streets of the city and apparently the promiscuity escalated. When she was 20, after no contact for 2 years she showed up on our door step with a little baby. She moved back home but for the life of me I couldn't get her to care for her baby. It was like she wanted to make herself look good by showing she had a baby but cared nothing for it. We became more and more concerned for the baby and my daughter got jealous of her child. So she started going out all night and I became responsible for feeding her child and rocking her to sleep at night. One time when her baby was 5 months old she was fussing at some silly beauty contest my daughter entered in and my daughter accused her child of crying on purpose to spoil things for her.

Then about a year latter my daughter got angry and took off to the streets taking her little baby with her this time. Ten months latter she appeared at our door with another one month old baby. Same thing occurred with the two babies as did with the one. She refused to care for them and was out every night. 10 months latter she got angry again and left for the streets with both her babies. A month latter we found her and she transferred custody to me.

All of my daughter's relationships that lasted more than a couple nights have been abusive ones. The father of her first child beat her unconscious and let her lying along side the road. She went back to him after she got out of the hospital saying he “didn’t really mean it”. She was in love with a pimp who would also beat her, and two or three other boys that did the same thing. After she transferred custody to me my daughter didn't come to see the children for 2 years. Then she came twice and has not seen, written, or tried to contact them for the last eight years. Eight years ago she got into another relationship with a guy. Her brother said they were at each other throats constantly. He'd get mad and go down the block smashing in windshields. So my daughter married him. Unfortunately my daughter didn't stop with the other guys and this kid wouldn't go to work so he could track her and about 4 years ago my daughter started fooling around with another guy, left her husband, moved in with her brother, and filed for divorce. A few days latter, her husband started text messaging my son saying he was coming up to kill my son's one year old child and unborn baby. He repeated “I’m coming to kill them, Glok 9MM” over and over again for over a half hour. My son says he hates children. Six months latter, immediately after being beat up by some other guy, my daughter went back to her husband.

Now my daughter is no longer allowed to leave the apartment unless he goes with her. If she even looks at some other guy, her husband starts calling her names. She’s pretty much been locked in the apartment for the last 3 1/2 years. Nine months ago we finally found my daughter and the state went after her for child support. I wrote her a couple of letters saying I would help if she wanted to reintroduce herself to her children. I got no response. Her children sent her holiday cards and got no response. Finally, the children agreed to invite her to dinner and I wrote and asked her to come. For the first time in 8 years, we got a letter from my daughter. After first saying she could not come and see the children because “it didn’t fit into her work schedule”, she then spent the rest of the letter, not asking about her children, but saying how terrible her whole family was and how “happy” she was and what a wonderful husband she had. Half a dozen times she kept repeating that she was “happy”. I wrote her back and chewed her out for not even asking about her children and she wrote back saying she was never going to talk to me again. So then her 12 year old daughter wrote her. She responded to her daughter by once again going on and on about how “happy” she was and described her daughter and brother as orphans. Both kids were upset and sent their mother another letter chewing her out and since then she refused to write her children. That was 3 months ago.

I didn’t want to get long-winded about things that happened in the past but it leads to the question I wanted to ask. In the last couple of days we received court papers where my daughter is asking for a reduction in child support. Eleven years after her last child, two months after she was located for child support, and against doctor’s orders, my daughter got pregnant again. She was diagnosed with something called PID a number of years ago and apparently, according to her affidavit, she’s been in and out of the hospital throughout the pregnancy. I know, based on her history its likely, that little baby is going to have a tough time growing up, but I’m curious if its at least possible that it grows up like a normal child? My daughter insists she happy and she has a wonderful husband, but it just doesn’t jive with her history.