I know you can't help worrying about your kids no matter what age they are but you do need to look after your own needs right now. I lost my mother when I was 29 and I thought I would not last a day without her, but life goes on and their will too. I didn't want my mom to talk about death or anything remotely like that, until she got angry at me one day and said "SHUT UP". That was a breaking moment for all the family really, and the start of acceptance of her own death and indeed ours too. Your kids love you so much and they are lost in grief, feel helpless and are afraid of going on without you. I think you need to tell them that you need to talk about this process. If they don't listen perhaps a nurse or someone in palliative care would be able to have a talk with them. You want to make plans and have to be able to discuss these thoughts and feelings with your children. I suppose we are all immature in some ways, but please take care of yourself .... Best wishes

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