Yes my counselor said verbatim "your issues are gone." And yes I have told him my expectations n asked him directly for feedback on his expectations n needs n I continue to listen when he gets upset by something I do or say n I tell him when something concerns me. The problem is with all the stress - it is causing a lot of difficulty first of all in not transfering blame n secpndly in being able to listen to each other n lastly in not blowing up from the stress level. We are both just starting to regain trust in each other again so when you put a lot of stress in the situation the trust gets stretched thin making the stress that much worse n the blowouts more volatile - so far we have been able to talk them through I just get nervous. But like I said it has been 8mo I been back n it is only since this company started being like this that he been even showing signs of being bad at all so maybe it is just my nerves n all the stress?