ok, he's crazy.

Verbal or even written contracts are usually only effective in last resort situations... like interventions. You're right, he missed the boat... but at least he was trying to actually catch the boat. You can turn it around and look at it as a sign he cares enough that he wants to find a way to stop you from hurting yourself.

what type of therapy does he do? i try to get mine to work on the emotional and he is less into it.