Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months, not long but he is wonderful, great sense of humour, very thoughtful and caring and just perfect for me. I love him dearly and he loves me too.

However, he is going through a very rough patch in his life for lots of reasons and I don't know what I can do or say to help, I'm watching him going in a downwards spiral and it's killing me.

1. He is separated from his wife, they have 2 young children together. She has recently started going blind and can't look after the kids alone.
2. His mum is diabetic and recently has been really unwell with it, he worries she might die if the condition doesn't get under control.
3. He works in a really demanding job that takes up a lot of hours and energy, lots of travelling all over the country and they don't offer sick pay. He can't currently leave this job as he owes them £9000 for qualification training undertaken as part of the job.
4. He is trying to join the Army Reserves part time as a musician but has had to appeal medically so must continue to go to all rehearsals and performances to show willing to help his appeal.
5. He also works part time for the Ambulance Service as a paramedic but needs to keep doing this for the money to make ends meet and support his kids.
6. He HATES letting people down and is a bit of a yes-man.

I worry that he's being pulled in too many different directions. I want him to be able to spend more time with me (he's not stayed at mine for 2 months because he is exhausted all the time and has lots of early starts for work) but he's always having to cancel plans last minute for work or family emergencies - unwell mum or child-care related mostly.

Obviously I understand he has a lot of stresses; I love him and want to support him but I also feel like I'm always the plate that has to fall so that he can keep the others spinning.

Can anyone offer any help or advice? I'm lost.