I don't blame you. I don't know if it formally configures lying, but she wasn't clear with you at the beginning and you ended up taking a huge step in your life with someone who you don't know/don't know if you can really trust. Is that so?

Not sure if I got that timeline right, but she didn't cheat, right? I don't know, but it seems to me that things moved a bit too fast from one relationship to another with a drastic change in her behaviour. Was she sexually abused or disrespected by her ex? Sometimes sex is an intrusive experience for women, even if it's consented and happens in a relationship.

I wouldn't call it jealousy, there can be an amount of jealousy, but it's not screaming. You seem to feel betrayed because her ex, apparently, got to know her in a way you - her husband - didn't, which sounds very reasonable. Why did she do that, hiding those things? You both seem very loaded.