An abusive relationship is one where we let people mistreat us. Like: taking our money, threatening if we don't do what they want they will hurt us or others, rough with sex, causing us to fear them, putting us down and making us feel unworthy, being mean by verbal, emotional or physical abuse. YES, you are in an abusive relationship. I recommend you talk to a counselor or therapist for advice how to safely get out of it without him coming after you or doing harm. To stay in a relationship out of fear is terrorizing not healing. I hope you get the professional help you need to see that you are allowing yourself to be used in a wrongful way. tc