My twin had stage 4 Hodgkin's lymphoma in her left lung in '91. We were 5 turning 6. It was treated as aggressively as possible with chemo and full body radiation. She had her lifetime max of multiple chemos as well as surgery removing 1/4 of her lung. They gave her 6months. She lived 16more yrs. she had multiple relapses and 2 bone marrow transplants. In the end it wasn't the cancer that killed her but the heart failure the chemo had giving her. My point is no matter how aggressive or response the cancer is to chemo, we are all on borrowed time.

Now is the time for you to live it up. Do what u want when u want. All those aggressive treatments do is extend ur suffering. I know some we'll be against what I say since I am not a cancer patient, but I saw and I know what it does not only the person but to those around them. My sister was a child never able to live and do anything since she was always sick be happy it came later for u. U got to go to a bar if u wanted to. I were able to get drunk experiment with drugs travel, whatever u did u did cu u could. She didn't have that.

Ur children will Grieve and grieve in their own way but u can't let that stop the time u have left. Help them find a counselor or support group or therapist and then let them be they are adults. I grew up at 8 with the hell around me at least they are adults. Have a talk with them and tell them to find help before so they have that support. And u yes u LIVE IT UP. Do what u can.