Those are some pretty big lies to tell, so your anxiety is not unfounded or misplaced.

If it were me in your shoes, I would feel like I don't even know the person I married.

From nervously virginal and your ex is a butthole who pressured you for sex, and your bff has the same name as him so that makes you anxious around your bff to "guess what honey, I've had loads of sex, even awesome butt sex and my best friend doesn't just have the same name as my ex, HE IS MY EX. Surprize!!!!

Like W......T.......F......

Who is this person anyway??!!

Not only that but I would feel like such a fool. Here I am, the good guy, the patient one who was always so respectful and caring, even when she seemed irrational, like needing to leave at 9pm because God forbid the neighbors might think two adults are sexually active.... Only to find out she shamelessly braved the snow for sex. Not caring who saw her leave where at what time....

Ugh, such dishonesty is just disgusting.

Sorry, I'm not judging your wife, that's not my place, just calling it like I see it, if I had been put in your position.

Sounds like you two need marital counseling, I don't see you or anyone sleeping on this and magically getting over it.

You need to re-establish the foundation of your relationship because it was built on a pack of lies.

Its not jealousy, its distrust, and she needs to earn your trust in order for your anxiety to dissipate so that you both can have a happy and healthy marriage.


I'm curious as to why she spun you all that bullshyt in the first place.