Hi,
I have a girlfriend we have been together now for 7 months, we are both in our late twenties, and we met online.
we are both very busy persons I am in college and working 2 jobs and taking care of my mother, I live with her.
She working as a nurse and at the same time Specializing in course of her profession. She is very smart and bright, Independent and live alone in a dorm near her job.
Since we started dating I always got this feeling shes avoiding me intimatly or for any sort of closeness.
At first I was too available and no matter when I was free she was busy at one time it was an exam she had and she did go out for a year prepaid concert with her friends. Other time it was her family she went to visit.It seem everyone is always before me.We met only once a week or less on average. I was very patiant and things after 3 months got better we did started to date for a while 2 days a week on average. Its lasted only month and a half.
She went to vacation with friends all females always. day before her flight she worked till late and we didnt got the chance to meet, never mind.
after that she came back and everything went bad once again she started avoiding from me periodicaly.
And in our dates things went really good she was enjoing herself and making future together plans,touching me.
After she came back from the vacation we met once and made plans 2 days a head.Was some kind of misunderstanding in the communication and she thought we cancel and I came to her place she wasnt home when we talked she started panicking and all defencive why did I came and why am I still there and shes busy, I asked what are you doin she said she coping papers next building. I got so upset we faught and in the end she promised to give me a key to her place .She wanted to before the fight even in our prev date(the key).
Forgot to mantion her family is 2 hour drive apart and I live a couple of minutes from her.
Then she started avoiding again saing shes very busy no time to see her family and friends even- another fight. I lost my patiance.
Then I changed strategy and started to avoid my self from her,revenge was fun but We didnt have sex for over a month because we met only once to a concert and her friend sleep over at hers.
she never told me once how she feel towards me but me neither.
When I started avoidance tactic myself she really thought I am goin to breakup from her.
Went for a date, she said she wanted to talk to me, we had the best time since ever,at the end she didnt talk at all, she only said the key wasnt made well...blha blha she will fix it.
next time we met at her place she made me dinner it was nice, but after a month with no sex i was dissapointed Because she said she need to get up early for work even though she insisted watching tv before.
Ok I thought maybe the sex isnt good or something, next date we talked I confronted her about it, she said she was really tired and busy the last month and a lot of pressure, she promised there is nothing wrong about the sex, after that we slept.
she also complain about me havent introduced her to my friends or brought her to my place.
Ok I have to admit I do have a shame about my home apearance and this is why I didnt bring her to my place.
I think all of her complain is to distract me from the center and this is her problem. I wanted to introduce her to my friends we planed and a day before she said her work schedule has been changed and she cant come. She suggested a day after' I Coudnt because I had two day after an exam.
then she said she have exam a week after, and later that week she had "work"
issues. scheduled for another day that I was free at evening. she said her family from abroad came to country I said you want to cancel she said no we will meet after in the evening,needless to say ,she said it was too late and she coudnt do anything WTF we didnt meet for two weeks now. now she wants to get together in two days.
what the hell is her problem