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Originally Posted by somat
if someone says, though, that everyone online who calls themselves ugly is not actually ugly, attractiveness has no meaning. why not just accept that i dont have to be pretty to have self worth?
also, to say that someone is actually attractive, even when they look in the mirror and think that they are unattractive, that suggests that there is some objective standard. which is exactly the problem to begin with...
i am much psychologically healthier when i just let myself think that i look bad some days and not so bad other days and dont place my self esteem on it.
and dont wait for someone to tell me how attractive i am...
i like the post about just doing things to make ourselves feel good about ourselves. i shouldnt have to think that i am attractive to other people to do that.
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I think that I can accept that my perception of my looks may not match other peoples perception of my looks. And i am certain that sometimes I do look ugly and sometimes I can look pretty. I'm OK with that. I need to remember that people are attracted to all sorts of "beauty" and my physical looks at this point are not my strong point. Still that doesn't mean that I am unattractive to everyone. So, to be healthy I just take good care of myself and do the best i can with what I have as far as dressing, and hair care etc. And once I am dressed for the day, let go of my attention on the way I look and just be me. That's my perspective today.