[B]Hello all. I recently made a post about how my husband and I are going through a rough patch. We have been through lots the last 4 months...my father passing and I had a recent illness. We have been together since we were 15...married for almost 2 years. Last night we had a really long talk about how we were going to work things out and I woke this morning very optimistic.

Well...it was short-lived. On the way to the mall I noticed he was kind of hiding his text. I asked about and he said it was nothing. No big deal. But when I reached for his phone he told me not to use it. That's when I began to question. He finally told me that he has been texting a female coworker. I was shocked. He is a very sociable person and he easily makes friends.

He informed me that he had been texting her for about a month. I asked if he had an affair with her and he said they were "friends" and have a lot in common they talk about at work. I told him that I thought it was really odd...given the fact we are in a rough patch and he texting other women. He said he should have the freedom to be friends with whoever he wants. I told him it really touches a nerve with me but he insists it's nothing. He says he's married to me and not interested in forming a sexual relationship with anyone else.

He let me read the text and they are personal. She texts him "she's putting the kids to bed" and how "she's tired." I think this is a recipe for disaster...he thinks it's innocent and says I should trust him more. "I haven't cheated on me the whole time we have been together, why would he start now?" he questions. So I now wonder if Iove overreacting? We look at the whole situation different. He says he wouldn't care if men texted me.

I just don't understand. He said didn't tell me at first because he knew it would "upset" me because she was a women. Then why is he even doing it in the first place?? As for now I have left the issue alone with him. But I fear this is going to be a serious problem in the near future.