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Originally Posted by FunnyMadison
Give me your opinion please.
I met a talented guy (painter). I first didn't think twice and flirted a bit with him. He looked a bit panicked (he mentioned earlier that he was single). He kept texting someone. Hey, fine. No sweat.
I saw him again at another event. He was with a girl he seemed interested in. He ignored me first but then invited me to another event along with her. I didn't think much and went. There he first ignored us both but then he ended up talking mostly with me.
In the weeks that followed he seemed to be into me. He said he liked me but that he couldn't show it, but at the same time I saw him flirt with other girls so I was confused. He even told me that he liked short stories (friends with benefits??). I told him I didn't. But he didn't stop. He got closer to me and then baked out. He also said that he wasn't looking for a relationship.
At one point he seemed to want to give it a try with me. He paid me a drink, which he only does when he dates someone. I bumped into him the next day. He thought it was on purpose I think and he asked me to join him for food but he went already pretty cold. The next day he was like an iceberg in the morning but in the evening he seemed in love with me.
He always seemed very drawn to me physically and intellectually. There was never any sex but physically he often came closer. Quite a few people thought that we had a thing.
So he often invited me to events but then I found out that all this time he called me a stalker :-o I never stalked that guy. I didn't avoid him, that's all. So I stopped going to those events.
But when he saw me, he kept blowing hot and cold. He went to events I was at but found some excuse so it didn't look like he came for me.
But now he's apparently with some very young and not very smart girl he was wooing during the same time.
So a relationship is suddenly not a problem anymore. Was he just flirting with me as long as for some mysterious reason the other girl didn't respond? Was I just on the back burner?
Now I see them together. I try to flee but they follow. And he keeps trying to talk to me. I don't see the point. I am not going to become some casual friend. What's wrong with him?
Did something bother him so much in me that he couldn't contemplate a relationship with me?
Or is he just into non threatening dumb young chicks?
A lot of women are mad at him because he led them on. From what I hear it seems that I am the one he led on the most. I feel special.
Looks like I brought chaos in his simple life. And he brought a lot in mine.
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I can somewhat relate to this guy on many things, but I'm not avoidant, preferably he rather not decide anyone because not that he's selfish and he wants women in a creepy or negative way. It's usually that he's not prepared for intimacy or rather feels that he's more upset how he is deep down and if other people come into his life he may feel threatened by you and the other girls simply the fact he won't face that they might not like him for who he truly is and it's ok they don't and if he's already aware of that, but doesn't like people to have anything to feel that he may hurt you or someone else he won't commit to anyone if he feels it will cause harm to the person he likes to commit anything further than friends.
I do this sometimes, but I do it in a way where I find out who I like and who I don't. Even if my choice is wrong I'm going to deal with it.
My point is he could be just not wanting to be ready to date anyone period. That's nothing you can control ever.
Oh I read into this further. Actually he sounds like he can't let go the thought of you as an option. I used to do this long ago when I was a teenager. It's not a good idea at all when anyone does this, it feels impersonal and feels like he's more possessive and infatuated with the idea you're an viable option as the girl he's with. Also he may respect you, but in a weird way and that dumber younger girls are easy pickings for his innate choices of immediate pleasure. He could be addicted to chasing girls or just being around them that he doesn't want love, but the thought of it in the moment even if it isn't real. I'm just trying to cover as many bases as I can. I hope this helps.