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Originally Posted by omegalamed
An abusive relationship is one where we let people mistreat us. Like: taking our money, threatening if we don't do what they want they will hurt us or others, rough with sex, causing us to fear them, putting us down and making us feel unworthy, being mean by verbal, emotional or physical abuse. YES, you are in an abusive relationship. I recommend you talk to a counselor or therapist for advice how to safely get out of it without him coming after you or doing harm. To stay in a relationship out of fear is terrorizing not healing. I hope you get the professional help you need to see that you are allowing yourself to be used in a wrongful way. tc
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It is a misconception that we allow it - to onlookers that is how it seems, but literally it is a manipulation of the mind and emotions before any abuse ever truly starts so its not even something we can technically choose to allow because at that point we are no longer able to think clearly - then on top of that the abuser has generally isolated the victim and made them dependant on the abuser in some or many ways - it becomes an effort to break away, the choice is never to stay or to allow, but the choice starts happening when there is enough break to allow the victim to think clearly enough... And that all depends on how deep the mind n emotional manipulation has gone
Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why domestic violence vict…:
Check out that vid sometime it is really informative on that subject