I am in a relationship that was once beautiful and has become something stressful and ugly.

I am desperate at this point and would take any advice and try just about anything.

My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years. We got engaged pretty quickly which resulted in a canceled wedding. He thought we were moving too fast and wanted to postpone. Even if this was the right decision, it left me angry and feeling unwanted. He doesn't seem to understand the feelings I was left with become ultimately his decision was for the best.

He works a lot from the road and lets his job consume him. He brings a lot of this stress home.

We seem to now fight often about small things. Every month that goes by, he seems to be further and further away from me.

Finally, he had an emotional affair. When I found out, he seemed sorry but for the most part shrugged it off.

Again, I feel hurt and unwanted.

He is very defensive. Maybe it is how I approach him? Maybe he doesn't like to admit he is wrong? This is where I need help.

I approach him when I have a need that is not met. He gets angry and says he feels like he is never enough. I feel unheard, he feels unappreciated. wash, dry, repeat. This has been our life for a year and a half.

Let me give you an example (this is a big one, pretty extreme. That is why I NEED advice.)

He travels for work. He has our entire relationship. I do not need to talk to him every hour or even for hours each night. I ask that he calls every night before sleep to say good night - and that it is at a reasonable hour. He refuses. He says he does not have the time, is too stressed, or that I don't talk enough when he calls - so he doesn't want to. I had a tough week, and not hearing from him set me off. Thursday: He came home, I told him that it really hurt my feelings. Being home alone without him is very lonely.

His response was everything above. He said that he was giving this relationship all that he could and this was the final straw. This relationship was pretty much over. I should start looking for apartments.

Saturday: (typical argument set-up) we have avoided each other for two days. I give in. I climb into bed, we make love. He asks me to not move out and he just needs time to think. I suggest a therapist because obviously our communication skills don't mesh.

Sunday: he leaves again for the week.

Friday: he comes home in a great mood after a successful week. It is our weekend with his daughter. He ants to take us to FL for the weekend. We go. She is 8, we don't have a second without her to talk. Thats ok, maybe that's good right now. We also don't have any time to have sex. Two queen beds. One room. He wants to have sex after she falls asleep. I feel awkward. Not in the mood. He gets angry. We go to sleep. In the morning while she was in the pool he asks why. I tried to explain I felt weird... I wasn't in the mood AND he didn't put in any effort to put me in the mood (he's not a big fan of handing out foreplay) we leave that day (yesterday) I take his daughter back home, he heads off somewhere else for work.

I text him while on the plane that I was sorry and I was bummed we couldn't be "together " as well. He lost it. I have never heard him speak this way. He was so happy to see me get on the plane, telling me to go **** myself, he doesn't care one bit about this relationship anymore (he has never spoken to me this way.) I didn't know how to respond. I just said that in was sorry he was upset, that I loved him and I wanted to make this work.

Please. ANYTHING you can throw my way. I want this to work.