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Originally Posted by littleowl2006
I have posted recently about the reasons why I distanced myself from some people which I used to call friends but who constantly made me feel bad about myself.
Some of these friendships are old ones and go back many years. It hurts to let them go and I feel guilty.
The point is, I am scared of being isolated. I live on my own in a big city and feel pretty lost. I can't count on my family. I don't have a relationship, just an ex boyfriend who struggles with major issues himself.
I am not very good at making new friends easily because of my depression recently. So this situation scares me a lot. Am I in danger of isolating myself? Should I keep on putting effort in friendships that weaken me and leave me disappointed every time? Or does loneliness weaken me even more? I don't know what to focus on here...  |
Honestly - I think the best advice I can tell you is this: focus on you - loving yourself, self-respect, self esteem, self love ... you do those things and you will find people will want to be around you - and you will be able to discern which ones you want to be around. The problem is understanding you cannot control how others act and react and balancing that with the reality that the human psyche needs human interaction to remain healthy and balanced - but to do that we first must understand what it is that we can n will accept n what we will not accept n what it is that makes us happy n who we are - we must also love ourselves so we do not depend on others to give us happiness or we will never find a truly healthy interaction thus it will never truly be happy either. So the problem may not be so much you isolating yourself from others - as it is you isolating yourself from yourself - because you cannot find a way to love yourself n respect youself n find the self esteem to have healthy relationships - do you think that could be the case?