I don't agree with you, divine1966.
He was interested because everyone noticed. When I stopped talking to him he pursued me.
If you want to avoid falling in the same trap again, you need to know as much as you can.
I like people who are not desperate for a relationship but not who don't want any.
He said he was a commitment phobe and I was going to drop it of course but then he said that no, no, he was still hurting from a previous relationship. He told me what I wanted/needed to hear. So I may be naive but I'm not a masochist.

Tishabuv: yes, sounds like him. :-/