thank you all for your replies and suggestions........

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i saw him today and started talking to him..... we chatted for a bit and i was hopeful...... then he said something that made me think he probably has a gf. nothing that made me think he was trying to hide having one, really, just a little joke he made that made me think he probably does. my coworker of course says the remark doesn't necessarily mean that he has a gf and say i should just ask him.... call me a yellow-bellied coward but i can't bring myself to be that bold........ i've been single for a year anyway, and i don't want to feel like a fool. i'll still talk to him and hopefully in the course of that i'll find out more....... i do appreciate everyone's thoughts and advice though...... and i'll update if things progress.....

p.s. w2f, i will have to check out that book. my total lack of self-esteem is unbelievable even to me. it's hard to reverse a lifetime of negative self image all on your own........