I just typed this entire response and hit post quick reply and don't see that it made it over to you

In case it didn't- I want you to know in a nut shell what I said.

Basically- women being nurturers tend to take a lot of heat from men, we bend over backwards for them, we usually apologize first and always want to give, please and fix. If we are giving too much of ourselves, it can quickly be taken advantage of when things start to go south in a relationship. A man who loves and respects you will NEVER make you cry or feel guilty about your feelings, ESPECIALLY if you're uncomfortable with something. I would have felt 100% uncomfortable in your shoes with the two incidents you mentioned.
A man being the "provider" should provide protection, support, love & respect for the woman he desires most and wants to spend the rest of his life with. It may sound like a fairy tale to some but it does exist. Sometimes we are put in these situations because lessons need to be learned. If this doesn't work out for you, you will know what to look out for in the future.
If I were you, I would back off a bit and leave him alone. He will talk to you when he desires to and you don't always have to be there for him either. Don't ask anything of him or tend to his needs or apologize for anything at this point and the reason is that it is in response to his reaction when you DO show concern, love & care for him. So turn the tables around and see how he feels. This doesn't mean fight with him but you certainly don't need to take ANY guilt or pain. You deserve to be happy. Just speak calmly and collectively and start focusing on doing the things that make you feel positive.
We put ourselves in these situations and become so tied to it that it feels impossible to break free or you think "maybe we can work it out". Well you never know but there are indications and red flags to pay close attention to in helping you gain a better idea of what direction this may go in. Weigh out the pros and cons, consider who is putting forth more effort, consider how this makes you feel inside and how you demand to be treated. Men should be gentle, kind & understanding. Don't EVER settle for less. Ive learned my lesson too many times and now I look back in disgust at how I could have been so wrapped up for so long in something that was so wrong for me... its hard to see the bigger picture sometimes or see it from another perspective looking outside the box because you're attached and emotional. Just fully understand & believe that you deserve more and from now on don't bend over backwards. Let him do that for once.
I hope this helps...