I think your T sounds like a good one. She's encouraging you to heal original hurt with her in a very direct fashion, supporting your younger voice. But she's also encouraging you to not abandon your adult self by seeking out appropriate adult support outside of therapy. I think the two positions aren't in opposition, and it's important for the two to co-exist. One of the most valuable things my T did for me was to encourage me to be functional in my life and to respect that functional adult self, while also accepting my more vulnerable, pained, younger self.