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Originally Posted by skysblue
The texting 'protocol' that T and I have is simple. She allows (even encourages) me to vent my emotions with text. We've found that when I share emotions that are 'alive' at the moment, she knows better what's going on with me. If I try to relate the emotion days later, it may have already descended into forgetfulness.
The protocol also includes her not needing to reply unless I specifically request it. That agreement is helpful to me because then I feel more free to vent.
That being said, many times she DOES reply with a few words of encouragement. Given that Sunday's emotions were off the chart, I'm beyond hurt that she didn't even acknowledge me.
I don't text her that often - just when emotions are hot. Months can go by without me contacting her that way.
You're right - I can't be absolutely positive she knows why I'm upset. But she's a very smart person who has known me for 5 years. I would be shocked if she didn't have a clue.
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What I meant when I asked you whether it is a good idea to continue to text (and possibly cryptically with the quotation) is that you haven't actually said why you're mad (unless I'm mistaken) and you're assuming she can figure it out on her own.
From an outsider's view, it seems like you're just causing more pain for yourself by not actually addressing the issue, but rather dancing around it.
If she's so open to texts, why not text "I'm mad because of X" instead of the quotation and assumptions she knows what the problem is.