Try to find something you can be involved in that gets you out of the house, even just once a week. You need to build up more skills for connecting with others. Take a ceramics class or anything you can think of. This man became too important because he was like all you had. This problen is going to cone up again. And men you meet will sense that your lonely. That causes you to attract the wrong kind of guys . . . guys who figure you'll put up with a lot.

As far as drunks meaning what they say. In one sense a drunk is unreliable. They don't make accurate assessments of people. They can sing the praises of some jerk who they got along with for an hour at the bar. They will badmouth the person nicest to them. But, in one way, he is telling you the truth, in that he is telling you that your feelings aren't very important to him. That you can believe.

While you're involved with this loser, you may be missing out on meeting someone nice. It sounds like you are still young enough to have another important relationship. But you don't have time to waste on someone who'll never be much if a partner. You'ld be better off to join a dating site and take your chances there. You can't do much worse than this guy. You also need female friends in your life. Also, look for things you can do with your son that get you out around others.