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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Pride tends to get in the way when we have too much of it.
Here's a more chilled reply for you, one that has salvaging the relationship in mind:
Swallow your pride just this once (I promise you won't choke on it), then agree to take the test/s of his choosing, meaning he goes out to make the purchase (so no effort on your part) ON CONDITION that when the results are negative, he drops the ENTIRE subject, forever.
If he even thinks of mentioning drugs and your name in the same sentence after that, he is to seek immediate professional attention for his paranoid delusions.
And just to be clear, he leaves you out of the last part of the equation because its his issue, not a relationship issue.
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I really appreciate the time you've spent responding and giving advice on this. I have considered every response so far and its really helped getting feed back. I don't know that I can swallow my pride and take these tests for him... its going to take serious soul searching on how I genuinely feel about him and our relationship before I step down and swallow my pride for him like that. I have made too many mistakes in my life doing things for people in relationships that have shown to go above and beyond while not getting the same in return which is where all of my pride really comes from... I'm afraid of INTENSELY regretting putting my hands down to take a drug test just to prove myself to make him more comfortable... I know he would do it for me but I have more respect and use my brain a bit more I think... not to mention I don't know that I could ever have the same respect for him or the relationship once he sees that he has been wrong this entire time.