In general I don't have an issue with age gaps in couples. I know several couples with large age gaps who are great together.

But one thing I wonder about--and maybe this is what your dad is getting at--is when members of a couple are at different life stages and therefore have different priorities, timelines, and attitudes about life. I am 33 and when I look back at my 19-year-old self I see a very different person. I would not feel comfortable seeing a 19-year-old right now. I don't think I would even want to date a 19-year-old version of my husband. I don't think we'd understand each other very well. Our lives would just be too different.

Is that maybe why your dad said when you are 23 it would be okay? By that time you would have graduated, started a career, and be at the same life stage as a man in his 30s.

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