I myself am a nurturer and I admit I've put up with sooo much crap from men in my past. Everything from verbal to physical abuse. I'm always one for second chances (hell, sometimes 5th chances). And now when I look back, I realize how incredibly stupid I was and I've wasted a lot of time and sanity. Like the others have said, it looks like he's been over it for awhile. From experience, once a man gets to that level then it's over. You wanting to talk to him every so often is probably making it worst. He may feel suffocated and he's trying to drop a hint that it's over. Especially the part where he went off in you. That should be a big hint. I understand how you want to keep trying and hoping to get the "old" him back but trust me it's not going to happen. You need/deserve someone who can give you the amount of attention that you give. Relationships can't be one sided. It has to be a mutual want or he will just continue and probably even have another affair. I mean why not? You took him back after the first one right? I know it's very hard but if you just do what's best for yourself then you will be happy in the long run and you will find "the one". You might want to consider therapy as well if you aren't already in therapy. Take time to nurture yourself instead of someone who doesn't deserve it.

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