This does not apply to my situation. I asked the question because a woman mentioned this to me; she is in this situation wherein her hubby wants her to spank him and she can't get herself to do it. She is a most gentle soul. Never ever yells at her kids. Never hits them. Very loving caring woman. He pleases her in bed, and she would love to please him by granting him his request, but she can't get herself to do it. And is offended when he says he'll go to some parlor where he can have the thrill of someone spanking him. And tying him up.