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Old Nov 11, 2015, 04:36 AM
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Originally Posted by clueda View Post
My T usually greets me in the waiting room and leads me into her office and when we're both settled she usually goes: "Welcome." I never know how to respond! I'm usually like "........ thanks". Or I just smile awkwardly.

Does anyone else's T do that? So awkward!

I'm not bothered by the "What are you feeling?" / "What's happening right now?" / "On a scale of 1-10..." questions. I find them quite helpful because I have a hard time talking sometimes.
Yes, my therapist does that. Not every time though, mostly after a break or when he knows he's screwed up in the past session(s) and I didn't actually want to come. I find it welcoming and helpful. I also say "thanks", even though in our culture one is usually expected to respond with a similar welcoming phrase to the one who was already there. I find that artificial so I don't say it to my therapist (I do in other contexts though).

I find all the other phrases that were written in this thread helpful. What annoys me is lack of attunement, lack of listening, and particularly how my therapists lately repeats his point of view 1,000 X without ever really considering mine. But the questions are helpful and after over five years of therapy I can clearly see their benefit and the progress I've made. I particularly feel connected with my body and emotions, for example, but then that didn't come as a result of just asking about feelings in my body. My therapist has told me from the beginning of therapy how he feels our therapeutic process emotionally and in his body, so I suppose I also had an example of what that can feel like and what that's about. I wonder if the therapists of people who are annoyed by this question have ever shared their own somatic experiences and if that might have helped.
Thanks for this!
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