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I don't think it's a question of not being the right one. This man couldn't see the right one if she hit him with a brick. I think it's a question of being ready (I doubt he'll ever be). He hasn't had a strong relationship in 6 years. He seems to deliberately pick girls who have little in common with him, are a bit dim, young, the non-threatening type and that never lasts very long (his record is 2 years and the girl ran away head over heels).

And as for enjoying himself (I am not sure if he sleeps with all of these girls, some are also pursued for his emotional comfort). He may enjoy it in the moment but then he feels bad and reacts very defensive to the slightest criticism.

Anyway what matters to me is the result. It's not very important if his intentions are not too bad but his actions damage me. I don't expect any change. I think he's too messed up.