I'll answer your question "What is wrong with men" with this: Men can have many of the same emotional problems as women. I have known several very intelligent, physically handsome men who were internally warped, damaged and not good relationship material. No amount of my good intentions were going to change that. I think this is the case here. A decent, kind person doesn't play emotional games like you are describing. If I had to guess, I'd say this man might enjoy the attention of more than one admirer at a time, but for whatever reason not be able or willing to commit to just one person. I think you can do better than this guy for friendship or for a boyfriend.