I am not normally a hateful person. That's why I have been scaring myself today with all of these thoughts of hatred I've felt towards my exboyfriend. I am over our relationship and have moved on, but I still have these strong feelings about him. This time they were triggered by a dream in which he appeared. I have a new boyfriend with whom I'm very happy so I am disturbed that I would still have such violent thoughts regarding my ex. Is this a borderline thing I'm experiencing? That's one of the key symptoms (inability to control anger or hatred) of borderline that has caused my doc and my therapists to disagree on the diagnosis. I just don't know... I feel like things are getting out of control. Any help would be much appreciated.