I would keep my doors locked, if not for me, then for my child. best predictor for future behaviour is past behaviour.


That's actually how I found the strength to leave my ex, I didn't want my daughter to be subjected to growing up in an abusive household. No matter how much i missed him or how many good characteristics he had, they become a moot point when a child's health, happiness and safety is at stake. So I kicked her "father" to the curb and haven't looked back since.


You're in a bad situation, make no mistake, letting him back in the house for no other reason than you miss him will be a grave mistake.


You'll be teaching him that his behaviour is acceptable and that you'll eventually get over it whenever he steps out of line.


If he was serious about treating you better, he'd have taken steps to fix his abhorrent behaviour by now.