Thank you all so very much! I have mentioned to him about the emtional affair and he says he "doesn't" believe in that stuff. He said he know his boundaries and I have to trust him. We have been fighting about this non stop since it happened and last night came to the brink of the divorce because I asked him if she knew he was married and he said no! He doesn't want to tell her either! If this was innocent why doesn't she know?!

Last night we about came to the conclusion of divorce. He said all we do is fight and I "nag." He left and came back about an hour later and told me he was sorry and that he loved me and couldn't picture life without me in it. We decided to end the discussion since it was late anf talk about it more in the morning.

This morning was fine but then once again it escalated. I was feeling pretty insecure about the female coworker so while he ate breakfast I looked on his phone in his room. Sure enough she texted "Dude this kids are driving me nuts today!" sooo I asked him if he had recieved a text from her and he said no! Which I know he read it because it wasn't marked as unread! I told him I read the text and He got MAD! He said that I have to trust him more and that she doesn't mean anything.

So to wrap this up...I told him he HAD to tell her he was married...he then said I was controlling. I feel no matter what I do or say he is going to contact this woman. He said he would tell her he was married at work today...like I believe that. Our marriage has been great up until this. I know it might be silly to freak out over texting but I'm so afraid this is going escalate into a full blown affair. I do nag him a lot so I don't know if I should to continue to ask him about her all the time or when he is home try to make things better so he doesn't feel the need to text/talk to her?? I really want our marriage to work and last night he cried to me and told me that he loved me and wanted it to work too...so confused...