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Originally Posted by Namaste30
I think the majority of people do... no one likes to end things once they're attached. I am one who has struggled with it my entire life. Finally I know what to look out for, what I like/dislike in people and once you figure that out, it can make it easier to walk away from a toxic situation...once you've experienced & healed from the pain it can bring, you should have a natural reaction to stay far away from it or the red flags waving in your face. its totally normal though... but what isn't normal is putting yourself through a ton of pain and sorrow. Give yourself some credit by justifying the way you feel and walk away.
surround yourself with people who love and care for you... there will be painless nights but every day you get a little stronger...
hang in there
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i could not agree more with the above. i'm a 69 year old female and my belief is as you get older, you see the warning flags sooner or trust your gut and not invest is a relationship/friendship which may be toxic. i had to terminate a relationship with my mom with the help of a therapist but most endings were of friendships with women or couples who had more issues than what my hubby and i had. it's never easy ending these but over the years i no longer feel guilty by doing so, as i know i am taking care of myself or needing drama or chaos at this point and time in my life…in a way it's very freeing..but there are times i second-guess my decision and then that person/couple proves me right and the pain of ending the toxic relationship/friendship is something i deal with and then let go of.