My therapist is very honest, but I would never class her honesty as brutal. She's always been kind, even when pointing out flawed reasoning on my side. She's never treated me poorly or reacted in an unhelpful manner. I've never had my therapist fight with me or say anything like your examples.

My therapist is honest with me and will point out when she sees patterns in my behavior that may be causing me problems. When she does that, it's usually something like "I'm seeing a pattern here where x happens and you do y, why do you think that is?" Or "did you notice how you automatically reacted with abc?" She's also honest with me when she thinks I need more help - reminding me to contact my pdoc or whatever she thinks might be helpful in that moment.