My T can often be pretty honest with me. It's hurt a couple times, like when I was in a rough place and just wanted validation, and she was trying to challenge my thinking. I talked to her about it either the next session or sent an e-mail later, and that helped. I think having a few discussions about that has made our relationship stronger. And I think she realizes now that sometimes I just need someone to listen and be there for me, not challenge me.

My marriage counselor challenges me on occasion, but usually does it in a more...gentle fashion, like less blunt than T. He's had a few moments though... But I've found it's best to bring things like that up if I'm upset so we can work through them.

With your situation, though, it sounds like you've tried talking about it some with your T, and it doesn't seem to be helping. Like he's being defensive and clinging to his point of view, rather than trying to see your side of things. So I'm not sure in that case...