I'm not religious but even I know this stuff.

Ephesians 5:24-25

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

This is very clearly a two-part deal in both the wife and husband must be worthy of each other. For the husband's part, he must love his wife as Christ loved the church. Now think about how much and in what ways Christ loved the church. It is only with that absolute level of genuine love, that the wife is expected to trust the husband enough to submit to him, as he would not disrespect her, or ask her to do upsetting or demeaning things, or jeopardize her safety or well-being, and so on.

The concept is an idealistic one in which the love between the husband and the wife is so perfect, genuine and complimenting that it flows in a very natural, harmonious way.

This is quite different from just being a doormat who does whatever some man says just because he is your husband.