First off congrats! Now as far as the GUY not wanting it enough is something I've never had a problem with. Ask him what turns him on? Sometimes a simple toy or outfit can do it for him. Has he struggled with depression now or in the past? Me and an ex of mine lived together and didn't have sex for a whole year because he was depressed. I moved on. Is there anything physically wrong like erectile dysfunction? Just have a long talk with him and hopefully he'll open up to you.

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