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i don't know if i understand the whole process of CBT quite right, but from what i do get the idea is that you change the self talk, actively track and change the negative thoughts, then work on actively changing the behaviour and TADA! the feelings change... right?

is that reasonably close to the idea?

because if it is then it's a crock.

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I think if depends on how the "CBT" is done. If it results in adopting a "happy face" to cover up the real feelings, then it will fail. I haven't seen any therapy's labels that describe what really happens in the therapy sessions. That can range all the way from brainwashing to listening. Will your therapist really listen when you bring up your concerns? I guess there is one way to find out.

There are two people involved in a therapy situation. A good therapist will be aware of his/her own feelings, and thus able to hear someone else's. A less aware therapist may try to avoid hearing someone else's fears, because they hit too close to home.