Ya the only thing that has kept me from totally not believing him is he did tell me about her and let me read the messages. I have been thinking long and hard about the last week and I think he has been sending me "Signals" for a few months. He mentioned he needed "me" time about 3 months ago. I have been so wrapped up in my own grief about my father passing I think I might have been neglecting his emotions.

I think he also might be a tad depressed. I know that doesn't justify everything but he sometimes he mentions he's sad...I ask him why and he downplays it.

I know we need counseling but he is totally against any kind of therapy/counseling. I have asked why before and he told me that he can handle his problems on his own.