Rather than focusing on "hooking up with a female" are there any groups or volunteer possibilities in your area. I have volunteered at community shops, animal rescues and meals on wheels. I find that getting involved with things helps to keep me get involved with life which in turn helps to fight loneliness. Even going to a craft group gets me out of the house and I can meet others. Do you have any interests that might be useful to others?. It will also help improve your self esteem and who knows....... maybe there will be a female out there?