my T has started to tell me the reasons she will not be in the office .she does not go into detail about things because i dont ask much . she will tell me if the time off is do to a seminar she needs to go to ,or if it is her b day .or if she has a doc apt or a procedure she needs to have done . ill ask if she is ok and she will answer . before she started doing this i was always thinking that it was because she needed a break from me . ever sense she has been doing this i tend to be more calm about her not being there . it helps me not get in my head and worry about the worse case situation