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Originally Posted by BoulderOnMyShoulder
For example, one session my therapist pointed out that I have a lack of affectionate, nurturing relationships in my life. I felt that he was stating the obvious, that I am painfully aware that I don't have enough close caring relationships, and it only stung me to hear it, and I told him that it didn't help. He took pretty great offense to me saying that, and said that I seem to think I can tell people what they can and cannot say and that's going to be another issue in my life with personal relationships. In my latest session, I brought up the last time when he mirrored back something I said in what I felt was a snotty way, and he jumped on me using the word "snotty" because he never said I was snotty, (that is a gross word written over and and over again btw) and that's when he said I was being a hypocrite in that moment and I'm not entirely sure why, but something about that it's fine for me to call him out on something but he can't challenge me? I don't even know.
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Thanks for the example. I have been much ruder to my therapist, but she doesn't react anything like yours does. I asked her once if her confusion was fake therapist confusion or genuine. She said it was genuine. I believed her, and that was that. I imagine yours would have turned my question into a capital offense.
Are you getting something out of this relationship that's positive? Or is it a repeat of old dynamics, only without the benefit of a mature adult therapist to help me navigate my way out of it? That's what I would ask myself.