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Originally Posted by ruh roh
musing...you keep trying to win her over, when there's no winning over to be had. Therapy is about you and your benefit, not her entertainment or satisfaction. My therapist and I laugh, but it doesn't really indicate anything if someone were to hear us. It doesn't mean she likes me more than any other client. All it means is that we laughed about something.
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Agree with this completely.
I'll also say, laughter is a defense mechanism (or in some cases, a pleasant façade), and the sessions that I laugh the most are the ones where I connect the least, and the least amount of work is accomplished. My therapist actually tries to discourage excessive joking around, though if I've had a rough week she'll play into it more. Fact - the sessions I've gotten the most out of, we haven't laughed at all.
And if you're worried about your therapist not enjoying her time with you or not being sufficiently entertained (which isn't the point of therapy IMO but a very valid concern), some of my best conversations with friends haven't involved laughter... and for entertainment, my favorite movie genre isn't comedy. Therapists don't go into the field to laugh.. they do it to help people and connect and experience emotion. The more you show of yourself, lack of laughter and all, the more real the sessions and relationship will be.