First off, BlueCrustacean, I'd appreciate it if you'd get off my thread. You obviously don't understand the issues presented, which is fine, and there are other places more appropriate to express your thoughts on the matter. Thank you.

LizardLady,

Yes, my husband and I have had that discussion. I think as a man, he tries to understand, and I have asked him to give me some space while I work on this with my therapist - which he is - and lately it has become obvious that his pressuring me was definitely making the problem worse.

The way I look at all this, it's just another thing I have to take back from my abusers that they took from me. However, I'm finding this one much more difficult than other issues I've already worked through. *sigh*