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Originally Posted by Samantha26643
Hey, no that isn't an option, my parents feel that I need to get married in a year or two (arranged marriage- common practice in India)
I also have a younger sister who is of marrying age, so I need to get married soon.. That is one of the things that started this overwhelming need to seek advice, coz I don't think I am ready for it, I don't think I will ever be ready for marriage and all the physical intimacy thing it requires.. I know there may be (0.00001% atleast) good guys out there but am a 100% sure I won't find such a guy, coz someone like that wouldn't want me. So I would rather stay single of that would have been an option. I really really want to but I can't trust any guy at all even if I know deep down that they nay be good.
I know my situation sounds hopeless. But am seriously at my wit's end. And I don't know how to overcome all this irrational fears. I am also sorry that I can't share what happened coz I try not to talk about it at all if I could help it.
Thanks for answering despite of all the complicated and irrational things.
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OK, so you would benefit from therapy but you should not tell your parents why you are doing therapy whatsoever. At least, not now
Maybe telling a lie is not a good advice but I am thinking that there may be some reasons for doing therapy that can ba acceptable for your parents.
For example: one can go to psychiatric consultation for symptoms such as insomnia; you do not need to say the cause of the symptoms. Precisely, many people that go to the psychiatrist do not know the cause of their symptoms, and it is through therapy how they finally find out why they are having those symptoms. I do not know if I am clear enough, English is a second language for me